Hello
folks, and thanks for clicking on my link. First of all, Happy Valentine’s Day
and I hope you are having a wonderful time with your loved ones on this special
day. Today, I want to write about the elusive phenomenon called love.
To
me, love is a deep feeling of care and passion that connects one person to
another. This feeling is what makes one human. Although animals have this kind
of feeling but I want to talk about human beings and why I say this love is
elusive in nature.
The
reason I call live elusive, is that it makes the one who says “I love you”
first is the vulnerable one. It is the same as saying I love everything about
you and that includes the flaws and short comings your partner. We are in a generation
where everyone is always presenting their “perfect side” and thanks to social
media, everyone is seen as beautiful or handsome. We get to edit our words to
make people think that we are good all the time in order words we are a
generation that loves to make our fake realities. This is the reason why so
many people find it hard to love: They see “that person” (outside) but do not
see “that person” (inside). And if you are a sceptic like me (sometimes) you
would say stuff like “this girl looks like a man eating mermaid” because of her
beauty or “this guy looks like a heart eating demon” because of his good looks.
Another
reason I believe that love is elusive, is the fact that we have heard too many
sad stories of people who met other people online or had too many
disappointments, but as humans, we crave exterior companionship (lust) because
we know that is it. We know what we are looking for, with this method, we will
be able to protect our hearts with titanium armour plates equipped with biometric,
retinal and multi-combination locks so that the opposite sex cannot get where
close to us. I believe this is the reason why we have so many schools of
thought concerning love. We have what we call open marriages where the couples
agree that they will not “restrict” themselves to themselves and see other
people to get the marriage working. This also means that they are not
“exclusive”. I must admit that when I heard about this I was shocked but hey
they say that nothing is new under the sun.
Now
people, I want to introduce to you the God kind of love as sited in (Luke 10:27).
Please don’t get me wrong. I am an advocate of erotic love and I believe that a
couple should share such “passions” with each other but I would prefer to do it
in my matrimonial bed where (according to my father) is legal in the sight of
God and the Law of the land. The God kind of love is so easy to inculcate into
our lives but very few people follow it because it contains elements of trust,
loyalty and co-operation between couples. This kind of love is “exclusive”
which means that it is just the two of you in this race called life.
Why
is it important to inculcate this kind of love? Here is my answer: this sort of
love does not look at someone’s history as a deterrent or as an excuse for not
giving him or her benefit of doubt. Please take not that I am not telling you
to just fall in love like that. You cannot get to know everything there is to
know about an individual but there has to be one or two characteristics about
that person that makes you love that person despite his/her flaws. As a
Christian, we have been advised to “love our neighbours as we love ourselves” (Luke
10:27) in other words, we should love our partners as we love ourselves. If you
are found wanting in this area I humbly suggest that you get help.
I
really hate those people who creep their way into other people’s hearts and
tear them apart piece by piece with emotional and physical abuse. I have one
message for you. Just as the sun rises in the morning and sets in the evening,
you will be judged on the weighs of justice and if you are found wanting, well
God help you. No real man or woman will insult or beat their spouse to get
their respect. The affected spouse gave you their heart, body, trust and
respect; it is only fair and right to reciprocate with the same and more by
curbing your excesses and working together to make the relationship work,
because generations are riding on your loins. Do you want to be part of the
rapid flock of divorced men and women in your society? Do you want your
children to tell their guidance counsellors that their parents are divorced?
Believe me, being a divorcee is not a badge of honour. It is a mark of failure
as a human being because you were not able to make the marriage work. For those
of you who are suffering at the hands of your spouse, I enjoin you to take that
marriage to God in prayer. God said in his word that “the heart of a man is in
his hands” (Proverbs 21:1), if you divorce that person, you are giving room for
the devil to win over your life and for those unrepentant perpetrators of
violence in the home. I humbly suggest you change your life and mindset by
accepting your flaws as they are and voluntarily stop them in other words,
repent. It is you who will give account to God about your life not your spouse.
If the marriage ends because of you, you will be the one who gets “egged” by
the society because you refused to change. My advice is, repent of your sins
and confess Jesus as your personal lord and saviour because he is the perfect
example of a love that is not elusive in anyway.
I
look forward to reading your comments on the box below.
E-Mail:
johnnyogah2000@gmail.com
So
everyone, LIVE LONG AND EXCEL.
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