Hello
once again and welcome to another time with me and my crazy thoughts. Today I
want to write about a poison that kills faster than cyanide and slower than Thallium.
That poison is called UNFORGIVENESS. I am sure you might be reading this and
saying this guy is here again with his “moralistic crap” but please bear with
me as you read this piece.
Have
you ever thought of killing someone who has offended you? Have you ever thought
of getting even with that boyfriend/girlfriend who promised you FOREVER and now
it is “For-NEVER”? Well, I want to tell you that you are killing yourself and
no one is worth it. Un-forgiveness can be likened to corrosive acid in a metal
barrel. It does not immediately chip away the metal but with time, it not only
chips away the barrel but also other factors like rust set in, rendering the barrel
useless.
I
am a movie fanatic and one of my favourite movies on un-forgiveness is THE
BLITZ. This movie tells the story of a serial cop killer who goes on a murder
spree killing innocent police officers. But later on the viewer is shown that
the cause of the antagonist’s madness is as a result of a hot headed police
officer who assaulted him when he resisted arrest. The antagonist was actually
at fault because he called the police officer an “F-ing Pig” and as a result,
he was humiliated. The antagonist simmered on that experience until it ate his
heart and brain. The police officer told him that he was at fault; instead of
learning his lesson, he gave in to false pride. He was acquitted but he wanted
to kill that officer because he felt he was untouchable and would use the
officer’s rising infamy against him which will end up in the expulsion of the
officer and the killer will receive millions in damages. To prevent anymore spoilers,
the antagonist ended up in disgrace.
The
hard truth is, everyone will offend you and it is your choice if you want to
let go or get even. Letting go (forgiveness) is the best way to get over
someone who hurts you. God in his infinite wisdom made the human heart to
contain a certain level of stress. Once it goes beyond that limit, physical
damages like clogged arteries from unused cholesterol leads to heart attacks.
When you are unforgiving, the heart pumps faster because you are angry and your
liver produces cholesterol because you are sending signals to your system that
you are stressed and when you don’t use the cholesterol, via exercise within 72
hours, it becomes bad and clogs your arteries. That is why young people
especially unforgiving people, die early.
The
psychological effects of un-forgiveness are numerous to count. Here are a few
downsides to un-forgiveness. They are, stress, resentment, mental instability,
sadism, loneliness and so on. No one was born a murderer, thief, womanizer,
whore and every negative vice in the dictionary. Most of these vices you see in
our society are as a result of un-forgiveness. You will hear stories like “my
mother assaulted me that’s why I turned to prostitution or my father assaulted
me and that is why I am gay”. Un-forgiveness keeps one in a box where the
offended person looks at him/herself as “the real me”. The offended individual
starts by getting even with the person that offended him but that is not enough
he/she transfers their anger to the society in general. This is where you hear
comments like, “love died with the Titanic”, “There are no good men or women”, and
“I will never fall in love again” et cetera.
As
a rational human being, you might be thinking that I am unreasonable but it is
up to us to break the vicious circle of violence in our lives. Just because
someone offends you, that does not mean everyone will offend you on that same
offence. Just because some douche bag broke up with you this does not mean all
men are douche bags. All men were not born with the name “ALL MEN”.
To
conclude this long article, I would love to write that letting go is the best
solution to un-forgiveness. My favourite reference material THE BIBLE, says
that when one offends you, seven times, you should forgive that person, seven
times seven (Matthew 18:22 ). It also mentioned that if someone slaps you on
the right cheek, you should offer the left cheek (Luke 6:29). I am sure you are
saying that those who forgive easily are cowards but that is not the issue.
Think of it this way, if I forgive, this person, I am taking the pressure off
my heart and I want to live long. The bible says that you should not allow the
sun set on your anger (Ephesians 4:26). Be angry but don’t allow it control
your decision making thought process. Here is the fun part about forgiveness;
you are heaping coals of fire on the person that offends you (Proverbs 25:21-22).
Sadists who offend other people don’t know how to handle forgiveness and love.
They are expecting you to be bitter and they get off other people’s resentment
towards them. Being nice to a sadist or an offender makes them confused and
bitterer because you are not giving them the satisfaction of being resentful.
I
look forward to reading your comments.
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So
everyone, LIVE LONG AND EXCEL.
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