Hello
once again, sorry for the long absence; I have been on a “personal retreat”
trying to jolt the creative outlet of my brain. Today, I want to write about
the common misconceptions brought about in movies that are being incorporated
by our society. Today, I am going to get physical on this article citing
various trends that is affecting our society negatively.
What
is right and what is wrong? This is a pretty peculiar question that man has
tried to answer since the beginning of time. If what I am doing is wrong, then
why does this feel so good? And if what I am doing is good, why do I still feel
the same? Well that does not happen always. The difference between right and
wrong is as clear as day. If you do what is right, you will feel better about
it and the guilt of it will not scar you but doing what is wrong may have long
lasting consequences that might outlive you.
Today,
I want to talk about the vices that plague our society and the vices that are
seen as right when they are actually wrong. If you have read my previous
articles, you would have noticed that I repeat this subject matter every time I
write. So, I am sorry if I sound like a broken record, I’ll keep on writing it
until I see some change in our societal values.
Before
I go into some of the vices that have been “accepted” by society, I would like
to ask another round of questions; what happened to love? What happened to
training our kids the right way? What happened to justice? Where is the culture
of trying to fix something instead of abandoning that same thing due to some
technical malfunction? What happened to taking responsibilities for your
actions? What happened to “whatever will be will be”? What happened to waiting
your turn? What happened to hard work? What happened to waiting? What happened
to training? These are some of the questions that plague my mind every day,
when I walk down my street.
The
truth is that in my opinion, we have forgotten our roots. What is said to be
wrong can be seen as right. Let’s take an example of indecent dressing. Back in
the day (in reference to Nigerian home movies) beautiful village maidens dress
in short skirts and beads which is commensurate to our modern day dressing but
cases of rape and sexual abuse were unheard of because such cases were dealt
with promptly without any delays to serve as a deterrent to other young men. If
a man desired a woman, he would have to pay dowry and get married. Nowadays,
young men will blame the young women for their woes, by saying stuff like “you
deserved it for dressing like that”. Please bear in mind, I am not an advocate
of indecent dressing, but I advice women to look beautiful not trashy. Women
have become more daring than men. These days, women make the first move. In
western culture, they tell you to live your best days when you are young by
indulging in all manner of sexual promiscuity while you are still young because
when you are matured enough, you might not experience them. This is seen in
American teenage movies. I will continue this scenario in another article
called WHO IS FOOLING WHO? So watch out for it.
Another
scenario that I want to point out is the issue of adultery. We live in a time
where people prefer to be sexually empowered rather than intellectually
empowered. Both married and unmarried men and women engage in sexual adventures
and some of the married ones participate in what they call swinger parties.
They use this as an excuse to promote intimacy between the couple and they
believe that sex is just an exercise to relive stress and as long as they love
each other, the marriage will stand. What “hogwash”! I must admit, sex is good;
in fact, it is a natural part of our human existence. Anyone who says they hate
sex is either an alien or a cyborg. My problem is not the sex, is just that
popular culture (print and electronic media) has convinced some of us that
having a side chick or a side guy is ok as long as there are no feelings
attached to the sex. This is what is called “sexual liberation”.
There
is also the issue of waiting. The media (especially movies), don’t promote
abstinence; I know they say charity begins at home but the media also
contributes to what we see and hear. When we see the adverts on sex related
diseases like HIV, we are told to use a condom and we see different brands of
condoms everyday with vivid images promoting the product. Once again I am not
writing that condoms are bad, I am just saying that we should focus more on teaching
people about self control and waiting for the right partner. There are so many
fishes in the sea but you cannot eat all of them. Some are poisonous while
others are good for food. We should develop a sub culture of waiting and
thinking before making any decision concerning choosing a partner instead of
giving in to the urgent needs of the human flesh. I know you might be saying
that “This is the modernized version of MISSION IMPOSSIBLE. But just like the
movie, if we could put our hearts and minds into it, we can do it; MIND OVER
MATTER people.
There
are other vices which are not mentioned in this article that have been accepted
by society that are seen as right but we know in our heart of hearts that it is
just wrong. I would like to go over some of the points that I have just
mentioned. Condoms are good if you don’t want your spouse the get pregnant but
it should not be used as an excuse to indulge in fornication and adultery. Sex
is beautiful but it should be respected within the matrimonial home and not
shared with outsiders. Learn to love each other and sex should not be the only
thing holding a relationship. There should be communication, understanding and
purpose. Just like I said in my previous article about virginity, you cannot
satisfy every man the same way neither can you satisfy every woman the same
way, so what is the point of indulging in sexual adventures while you are young
all in the name of experience. I should tell you a secret about me. I would
like to treat everything I learn as if I am doing it for the first time because
I would like to establish good communication with someone. I believe the same
thing could be said about marriage and having sex with your spouse. Well I
don’t want to spill the juicy details but I am sure you know what I am talking
about. Well let’s just say that IT ALL GOES DOWNHILL FROM HERE.
#feelingdirtyrightnow.
The
moral to this article is this, before we embark something, weigh the pros and
cons, count the cost and see if what you’re about to do, will cost you your
soul. As a Christian, I believe that we should enjoy life to the fullest but I
will give account of how I spent my life. You can have fun without indulging in
our “socially correct wrongs”. This article is not about sex alone but it
covers every aspect of life.
I want to conclude by quoting a verse from the
bible “There is a way that seems right unto a man but the end thereof is
destruction” (Proverbs 14:12)
Please
think about this and make that change. It starts with you and me.
I
look forward to reading your comments.
E-Mail:
johnnyogah2000@gmail.com
So
everyone, LIVE LONG AND EXCEL.
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